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Rebirthing

“Anyone who takes a risk will need to become the person who can hold what they want & anyone who chases their YES, will eventually find themselves in cycles of death and rebirth.” – Isis Leeor; Happiness Educator at joyplayawe.com

Manifesting often has its roots in shame

Mani-festing, I call it. You get it when I write it this way? This manic savoring of the imagined romanticism of what pain really is. We usually do. We don’t want it, yet we chase it vigorously when we haven’t learned that letting go is a real possibility, too. Even avoiding acknowledgment that we give it power over us and then feeling shame for it afterwards.

We came in with the toolkit of feelings in our back pocket – ready to shoot from the hip, but not with enough wisdom to wield the light and dark in ourselves. Yet.

And that shame, it builds up, we accumulate it because we aren’t taught to navigate! We aren’t taught that letting go isn’t as bad as we think. We aren’t taught that existence has much more in store for us than we allow ourselves to imagine. But we can!

Oh beloved, don’t feel bad about it, it’s just the way reincarnation works, it lets us forget. So we can learn.

And if we venture into the unknown, even with just that fiery desire in our hearts, letting go will become a practice that will hush the noisy stagnation and our deep-seated grief. We overcome. A new person every day; pain becomes the tool it’s meant to be – a guide, the redeemer of shame. You don’t let the pain go. It enables you to GO!

It’s heartbreaking how often I clung to the things that did not serve me

The crippling fear of not finding my purpose early on in life.

Not finding my mate for life.

Not…

I shed rivers. I revolted. I fought with destiny of my own free will. The amount of energy that that took, my goodness! I was a victim, but equally, I played the victim.

I didn’t get a grip on this manifestation process because I deflected the fact that this water planet we live on, works by action executed by inspired intention.

Needless to say, my life looked like an interesting telenovela. I had nowhere to put my shame down, or so I thought – silly me.

So often, I ignored the signs the Universe – I call it existence – gave me. I still do, frequently, but at least now, I lean in and listen more.

On my way to my lush, conscious world where love isn’t merely a craving but a way of looking at myself and my environment. So, I respect my painful emotions; they are the precursor for my jump to the next level.

I get this now; as a result, I became more appreciative that living this life with integrative awareness is a beautiful invitation. One that applauds transformation and rewards it!

Pull your inner observer close!

Getting older

I must admit, it helps, getting older. Development wisdom really starts up with the years we accumulate.

Although, these wonderful young children – Starseeds – they have more of a knack for it. It’s as if their talents are fine-tuned from birth, and we, Gen X, are the ones who cleared the way for it.

So, no-way away with pain, but gracefully giving it respect for its directive is what I embrace.

But please don’t put it on a pedestal. Do not dwell in it my luv’s. Because this matrix fabric of time and space with its own sets of rules, loves you unconditionally and in doing so will give you only more of the same. Why would you want that?

Instead: cherish the pleasure of being in a body. With new beginnings around every corner. Smelling, tasting, eating, and only having sex if you can look someone in the eye while doing it. Make love to Life, and if you must use candles and incense or velvet and some shine, do it! Debra Silverman, a well-known astrologer, calls this her yum-yum sauce.

Practice makes perfect

At least, that’s how the saying goes. But honestly, you don’t need perfect.

You need your acceptance and to take a stance! We all do! Pickle that with some particular flair, wrap it in sparkling vulnerability, season it in humor, and you get your integration marinade, perfectly adapted to WHO you are to counter the indoctrination of shame.

What you want is so essential, otherwise you wouldn’t like it, you wouldn’t dream it. It’s as simple as that.

‘Becoming’ is not a stepping stone to your destiny. It is the way and the destiny itself!

Softer

Don’t you notice that when you make up your mind and make a firm decision – which we think of as harsh energy, you feel softer afterward? Release that sets in with a sigh? I know you do. Subtle maybe, but nevertheless: present.

Somehow, we’re discovering that NEW isn’t worse than the picture our ever-so-protecting but overactive ego tells us.

And suppose your shame doesn’t come from the intrinsic inner guidance that tells you – in energy – what is right from wrong. In that case, it’s just mainstream society and inherited patterns from lineage or adopted complicity to old scripts that don’t serve your soul.

Doesn’t deep level listening to your pain not feel lighter this way, even soft?

And is this soft grief not the very seed from which renewed fire will sprout? Since your listening told you things can be different.

It is as if pain and pleasure go together, holding hands the same way yes and no, and belong together. There’s no place for shame in this cup of tea!

Or do you choose to see quitting a job as you were a failure? Do you keep deciding to leave yourself whenever a new relationship comes along? Do you choose to battle with genes or dis-ease when you get sick, or do you embrace the message your mind and body bring to your front door?

Rebirthing is about acceptance and deciding to integrate the past experiences and to action your hands on the steering wheel

Hear me when I say “Acceptance feels softer than shame”. And it builds trust. But this time around, not in others, but in your own being.

Oh, let me correct that sentence: you can trust other people, just bear witness to what they show you and believe them. There’s no right or wrong in this. Just trust them to be themselves and grant them the same courtesy you crave: becoming someone who can hold what they want.

And that, my loves, is a freaking call to action!

If you have to press that reset button every single day, every hour, and every minute, do it!

Unknown is factual: only unknown – Ther’s no life without death and no death without rebirthing. So what do you have to lose except for some ego?

Ask WHY you are here and what will fulfill you. No shame in that.

Now go Beyond, with integrative greetings,

∞ Tini ∞

One of the most invigorating authors who speaks about these topics on a very relatable societal level is Brené Brown. She’s a legacy builder on human navigation.

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